Wedding planning. In more recent years it has become something of a job, am I right? Isn’t that why the title “wedding planner” was deemed into existence? But what I would like to talk about are those brides that are more the do-it-yourself-ers. Yes, I see you over there. We all see you. Is your hair falling out yet? Don’t let it!
Planning your own wedding takes guts! You’re doing great, so don’t question it. There is not a wrong way to attack this. But here’s what I’d like you to stop and think about: How are you feeling today? Studies show that wedding planning can take a large toll on the happy couple. A large percentage become symptomatic with things such as insomnia, breakouts, mood swings, anxiety in everyday routine, or even strain on your relationship. Stress induced symptoms are not pretty, and not worth the worry! They cause us to fall into a pattern of giving up, and you are not giving up your wedding day!
So what are we going to do to fix this? I’m not going to tell you “it’s simple” or “easy” but it is a habit worth exploring… Cutting yourself (and your partner) some slack. Stop and ask yourselves in the midst of all this planning and chaos “what do I need right now?”. If it’s a nap, then proceed heavy sleeper! If it’s a date night out and a good meal? Chow down young lovers! Creating the habit to ask yourself what you need is and will be the best habit you ever started for yourself. And the more you do it, the less your wedding or planning it will make you want to cower.
We get warped into our own tasks to the point of exhaustion or even physical symptoms. But if I can be that tiny voice in the back of your head today that says “BREATHE BABE”, then I’m happy to do it. Self care is a major part of planning your own wedding. Remember, eat when you're hungry, sleep when you’re tired and always ask yourself “how am I today?”.